Wrong: not correct or true, erroneous, dishonest, amiss, mistaken, unjust, the list goes on…and on. Like forever!
Right: correct or true, honest, morally good, justified, acceptable, restore to an upright position, straight, – okay…the last two don’t support my message – you get it right?
We have all cut someone off in traffic or rushed ahead of someone unfairly in the check out line at the grocery store. Or even made fun of someone while they were standing behind you, maybe even listening… that’s the worst! We have all been mean to our siblings, parents, partners, friends – almost everyone. And it’s all happened to you too. To all of us. People have wronged us.
But today, in our busy lives, we rarely pay attention to those wrong doings other than to perhaps cuss back at that driver who gave us the finger or mumbled “jerk” at the guy who wouldn’t hold open the door for you. Maybe we even feel bad if we don’t smile back a at the person who smiled at us, or didn’t say thank you to the bus boy who cleared our plates so we could enjoy dessert on a clean table.
Maybe we unfairly didn’t trust our children when they told us that it really wasn’t their fault. Or maybe we said something mean or insensitive to our husbands or girlfriends or parents. Maybe we were wrong.
So what’s so bad about being wrong? What if we could learn to grow, learn, empathize, forgive, and even laugh from being wrong? Is it possible that being wrong isn’t so bad?
We all have been wrong. (Yes, even me) We have all made bad calls. We have cut people off in traffic, we have all made fun of that funny looking person with his/her zipper down.
One of the most important things I have learned is that it’s not so bad to be wrong. It allows us the opportunity to strive to be better. And sometimes, when we are really wrong, we feel bad, guilty, embarrassed, shameful. These feelings are key elements in learning and growing.
Admitting we are wrong is arguably one of the most challenging situations we will find ourselves in. It’s scary to admit that we were wrong. But if we admit it, aren’t we being courageous enough to work through it? If we truly understand the consequences and results of our wrong doings, (intentional or not) and truly learn and work at improving, and work to correct what we have done, or at least do our best to make up for it, is that not an accomplishment? Is that effort and growth something we can be better for? And if we have wronged someone else, we need to do our absolute best to make things right. Wouldn’t that bring a sense of pride? And a sense of relief that we helped make the person we wronged feel better, and even trust us again?
Being wrong allows us the opportunity to explore learning, growth, forgiveness and it can even nurtures confidence. As long as we know how to identify the good in the bad – and not disregard the consequences of the bad – but use it. Learn from it and improve.
To admit that we were wrong, and accept the consequences of our wrong doings can actually benefit us. We can grow, learn to become graceful, gain knowledge and become more resilient and respected.
None of us are perfect. We will always make mistakes. So where do we go from here? It’s your call. 🙂